Your Girlfriends Are Your Soulmates
As you grow up, you will most likely find friends rotating, in and out, some never to cross your path again. Life is funny like that and horribly bittersweet. My best friend when I was young outgrew me - I wasn't "cool" enough. My best friend in high school and I lost touch - such is life. My best friend from college and I became completely different people. Everyone changes. But here is the secret my love, it was my fault.
The older I get, the more I realize that I did not do my best to glue those relationships together. I let bitterness, jealousy, boyfriends, parties, and the least important details of life get in my way from my true soulmates, my girlfriends. I chose to see where they hurt me instead of where I loved them. I missed all of their perfect imperfections. I regret that now and looking back things are so much clearer. I was quick to anger, and abused other people with my words. I was terribly insecure. That is not an excuse, but just the sad truth. Instead of focusing on loving myself, I was jealous of those that had qualities I deemed desirable. I have always wanted to be something else, someone else. I have severe grass is greener syndrome. (I really hope you know what that means. Also, # is a pound sign, not a hashtag. I will explain later.) I am working on myself every day, because I want you to see a strong, independent, creative, brave and loving woman. I want you to know it is okay to be who you are and to not have to apologize for that, but I also want you to lift other women up and never lose a friendship over self pity.
Your girlfriends will be there - When a boy that was your world breaks your heart, when you lose a family member or a childhood pet passes away, when you and I inevitably have a disagreement and on days you're sad that your pants are just a little too tight. They will be there when you are feeling lonely, when you need to tell someone your darkest secrets in the middle of the night for fear you'll burst, and when you feel so low you don't know how you will ever get back up, they will help you remember. So here is my advice to you, never let a boy come between friends, never let another girls accomplishment make you feel unsuccessful, and always be radiantly you.
You will need your soulmates, because life will get hard. I hope you always have the ones it took me years to find. I hope you are smarter than I was - never let jealousy get in your heart. Lift your girlfriends up; help them set the world on fire and I guarantee they will return the favor.
*A formal apology to all the soulmates I destroyed while trying to be "cool."*