Love Isn't Always Glamorous
My wish for you is that you fall into a quiet kind of love - one that doesn't boast or cling to artificial boundaries. It took me a long time to learn that this is the truest form. For the longest time, I wanted a crazy love story, one that would start a fire in my belly and radiate to those around me. I wanted the passionate fights, crazy make up sex and to somehow end up happily ever after. Romantic Comedies will truly skew your idea of love.
For five years, I had the relationship I thought I wanted - passionate, emotional and unpredictable. We were couple of the year when we were happy and America's Most Wanted otherwise. It wasn't realistic and it was completely exhausting. Looking back, was I in love? It's hard to say. I resemble it closest to an addiction. The thing is, love shouldn't make you physically tired. It shouldn't exhaust you and make you yearn for the times you get to spend alone. You should not feel as if you will die without the other person or that your self worth is a direct reflection of how they view you. You are already a whole woman. All a significant other should do is make you the best version of yourself - not because they point out your flaws, but because they celebrate your value.
What I wish for you is what I found when I finally learned what love is meant to be - what I saw when I pulled myself away from all the movie romances and trashy novels. Love is when he scrapes the ice off your windshield so you don't get your hands cold in the morning, it's when he gets up when the dog has to go outside and lets you sleep in, it's when he gives you the last piece of bacon. He knows your truest self and loves you anyway. He is completely aware that you get hangry and cannot be held accountable for what you say in a fit of hungry rage. He knows you are always cold and will be needing a sweatshirt in the middle of May (even though you say you don't). He knows dark chocolate is the way to your heart and you laugh at your own jokes.
When he is an awful cook, but he makes you canned soup when you're sick and watches Grey's Anatomy with you every Thursday then you may have found the one. Does it sound glamorous? Absolutely not. Will you occasionally wonder if it's too stable and if you want a glimpse back to the Romantic Comedy lifestyle? Probably. But, when you think of having a son just like him, are you proud? Would you want your son to treat women the way he treats you? For the first time, I can say yes. We have a silent love that makes my soul happy and its more than a Romantic Comedy could ever offer, because its real. I wish you the same.